The Mom I think I want to be,
- is always calm
- is always confident
- is able to meet all of my kid’s needs
- serves nutritious dinner at home 6 nights out of 7
- never responds disrespectfully to disrespect
- never, ever yells
- is able to keep the house clean
- never lets my kids forget anything they need
- always helps with homework
- has no problem saying no when appropriate
- doesn’t feel bitter about kids carelessly breaking and losing things that cost money. Lots of money.
When I am properly focused and able to remember that it’s not my kid’s job to make me feel fulfilled,
I remember that,
- no parent is always calm
- every parent makes decisions they’re not sure of
- it’s not my job to meet my kid’s every need
- no matter what meal I serve, chances are good that someone won’t eat it
- once in a while everyone loses their temper
- and I still never want to yell
- relationships are more important than the vacuuming
- if they experience the consequences of forgetting, they’ll remember next time
- I was bad at math and let Jon help with that
- nobody likes to hear no, even when it is appropriate.
- They don’t have to love hearing it. I don’t have to love saying it. Life isn’t always going to feel good.
- it’s ok to be disappointed when things are broken or lost. It’s also ok not to replace them.